I don't think I could ever consciously write a book with a theme in mind, but it occurred to me after I'd finished the SOLOMONS book that the theme had been given to me long before I'd started writing it. It was a conversation with my thesis advisor and mentor David Hollander, and he said this: Desire always exceeds the object, quoting Lacan. 

I saw him a few months ago and I had him write it down.